Now this post probably seems a little pre-school, I mean making friends? Well this is exactly it, there's nothing stopping you from expanding your horizons. For me, making friends this year that have few ties to my school life, relationships or just London as a city has been a big part of my growth. Quite frankly it happened organically (the way it should) though it will always help to keep some pointers in mind when being dropped into a situation with no familar faces...
1.The first point has to be smile. Smile! Smile. Smiileeee.. you'll be surprised how your friendly face can speak for you, opening up the possibilities for conversation.
2.Is your body language saying hello? Or don't talk to me? It makes a difference in how approachable you come across to others. Relax and be 'open'.
3.Make an effort. Take the time to actually talk to new people and ask them questions about their lives! Don't be a conversation hogger... friendship is a two-way street.
4.Take the time to understand. You may not get along as well as you had liked when first meeting but as my Auntie always says to me, 'to know someone is to understand them.' This comes with time.
5.Patience is a virtue that is easier said than done. When finding yourself alone in a new environment it can feel quite lonely. You have to be patient, not just with your surroundings but with yourself. It takes time to adjust.
6.Join a club. Not a nightclub- though it can be fairly easy to pick up friends between shots haha. Think of what you are currently in to and join a club, whether it be arts or yoga or the gym. Maybe even local football team or a bird watching society. There is plenty out there and as you are already interested in the theme of the club, you will find it easier to make connections with others.
7.Make an effort to learn some local lingo. This tip only applies if you are in a country where you don't speak the native language, but it could also be colloquial language too. I wouldn't know where to start with slang in Liverpool although I was born in the UK...
8.Leave the house. This seems fairly obvious but sometimes leaving your bedroom seems like the last thing you are willing to do. You just have to get out there, even if it seems like a lot to ask.
9.Be confident in yourself. This is not always easily attained... confidence, but it is a journey that will come as part of your growth.
10.Finally belief. Believe? Yes, believe! Believe in yourself as a person! Similar to confidence but rather believe that you are worthy of friendship. You have all these great attributes that deserve to be shared with the world!
Peace&Love,
Willow
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